A New Critical Path- Trust


I have always looked for the critical path- the shortest possible route in everything that I do. Being efficient has always been a big deal to me. I found the fastest way to earn a degree, the fastest way to finish work projects, to get house work done, to get promoted, to own a home etc. However, my critical path methodology never seemed to work on relationships and this is why. My career, education, physical possessions and all these things are all different from relationships. Relationships don’t happen because you plan them.

Relationships require intimacy (closeness, familiarity, understanding, confidence, affection, tenderness). Now to be honest I have met individuals that I felt connected to. But I can’t remember ever having a confidence in someone’s character, to really trust to the point of vouching for them. I had deep affection, I felt close and there was even tenderness. But I was short tempered and not patient with a lot of things, and it boils down to confidence in the other person. Just as I can say the Lord will deliver me, because I know he will. If I know for real that this individual’s motives are true then I can rest in that fact. But I can’t be confident in what I don’t know.

Men are sometimes not truly expressive of who they are in ways that women appreciate. And even if they talk a lot, its usually a bunch of stuff that has nothing to do with the main course. Fellas if we don’t know you, we wont trust you. Trust comes from intimacy. Knowing enough to believe. Trust is not faith. Trust comes with evidence that can be seen. Women require security- not knowing makes us edgy and annoying. Ive been there. I’m happy today that I’m over that. I have a God with whom I’ve learned to be intimate. Not just praying because I know I have to pray. But to actual know him and commune with him, it is just a blessing. This gives me the strength to wait. I’m learning to be patient with others. It has now created the basis on which my relationship with my future husband will be built.

One of love, trust and sweet communion. I’ve found a new critical path- thank you LORD!


Hot Air

I have never travelled in a hot air balloon, and since its not a very popular mode of transportation this might be a similarly scenario for most of us. But even though we have never travelled this way, at some point in our lives, we all have floated on the hot air of words. Promises not materialized.

Both sexes have succumbed to this. Individuals coming into our lives with wonderful words that take us up in the clouds above the ground. How wonderful it feels to be loved. Everything is just dandy until one day, the heat flame that causes the balloon to rise dwindles and we start our descent back to the earth to a realization that it was all words. Such a disappointment. Words of love are beautiful, and promises give hope, but I rather to be given the truth that to be fed false love. So my fellow singles be very vigilant in ensuring that you are not encapsulated by words only. But also consider the works that follow. 1 John 3:18 encourages us to “not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” As such, if you don’t want to be fed hot air, don’t do the same to others.