“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30 KJV)
I remember prior to being saved, how much money and time I would invest in how I looked. The hair extensions and styling, the clothes and accessories the grooming and upkeep. It was just crazy.
It totally mattered how I looked. But why? After examining my motives for being that way, at the centre of it all was a big competition. Who wore what and looked best. It was all about hype. And of-course with hype comes ‘friends’. Friends that most times only pretend to like you just to fit in. This is where favor is deceitful.
Because, most of whom I thought were my friends slowly dwindled away the moment I gave my life to Christ. Our conversations were a drag because our interests lied in different places. The people who would party with me found excuses to not come to church with me.
My hair, clothes and attitude changed and so did my friends.
So then I got contented with that and truly appreciated the people who still stuck with me during this change. But now I saw a variation of the same thing in church. The fashion! The glitter the glam. Which I must add, makes others who can’t afford it feel inadequate most times befriending the so called in crowd. This is the start of a whole bunch of self esteem issues.
Nothing is wrong with dressing up and making yourself look beautiful but you must check your motive for doing the same. Your entire day must not be focused on your fashion sense. I’ve been to gospel concerts and seen Christians seemingly forgetting the reason why they came. They get so caught up in their outfit that worshipping the God that should be the reason of the concert becomes secondary. It is sad when we reach a place that we cant stand to worship because our heels are too high and we dear not take them off. Its sad when the only legacy we take from a church or worship session is a beautiful picture of ourselves that we place on social media. I’m not bashing anyone because I’ve been there. Just Highlighting that our focus is wrong.
So many times young people especially go to a service that they didn’t see the end of the sermon but have time to go outside and socialise with no interest in tarring inside praying with and for those who need Christ.
Thanks be to God that there are a few that do tarry for others. They do what they do because they operate by purpose and they shall be praised. “Well done thou good and faithful servant.” This is by no means expecting everyone to be an altar worker. It is saying we all can play a role- we can just simply worship God— letting our true praise and worship permeate the atmosphere bringing on that oneness anointing. Sitting/kneeling in your seat and praying that God has His way is also a plus. These are simple gifts of sacrifice. Yes, you want to talk to a particular individual, but what was the purpose of you going to the service in the first place? Do you believe it is God’s will for any Christian to ignore the plight of those seeking after Christ? We need to all be servants.
The spirit behind this glorious fashionista era in the church is not one of servant hood. Serving means going beyond one’s self. If you can’t worship because your suit just got dry cleaned you are not being a servant. If your outfit staying intact means more to you that helping someone breakthrough at the altar you are not being a servant.
Every time we look in the mirror we must see our purpose in God. It shouldn’t be lost in our popularity or physical beauty.
I want to be a faithful Servant. I want God to see me as a faithful servant. I don’t just want to look beautiful, but I want to be beautified in God’s will. The Proverbs 31 woman- was purposed to be in God’s will and that made her beautiful!
A man walks into a diner and to his amazement he finds all the tables furnished with food and well presented. He took a step back and analyzed it well and picked the table that garnered most of the things he liked to eat. He was satisfied with his choice and sat down to delve in. He then looked up and saw a table that was about five tables from him so colorfully delicious that he couldn’t resist. So he didn’t bother to have the food at his first choice, but now wanted to explore the enticing colors of the table afar off. As he walked over, the picture became clearer. It was a table set for one who was vegan. Being a meat eater, he didn’t bother to sit, but decided to browse through the other tables to see if they were better than his first pick. None of them pleased him as much. So he decided to go back to the first. By this time, other patrons started coming into the dinner, and when he walked back to the table he finally chose, someone else had occupied it and so it was with all the other tables. Even though he was first, greed and indecisiveness caused him to end up with nothing.
So it is with many in seeking a partner. They have prayed for a spouse being specific and God has answered their prayers and placed their heart’s desire on a table before them. But then the “I want to make sure I’m not missing out steps in” and makes a mess of everything. Did they not get their heart’s desire? So how is it that they are missing out? Greed, I tell you. Greed will cause them to end up with nothing. They will never be satisfied with God’s provision and will continue to browse in indecision until nothing is left for them to take.